Ok eto nanaman mag dadrama nanaman ako :), Letting the other person’s Emotions control you, When someone u love is angry or depressed, it’s hard not to let that affect u. a lot of arguments start when one person is uptight and they “share the love” with their significant other, and suddenly everyone is upset. It’s not a pleasant gift, but there is a way to refuse the package: by not allowing their emotions to become your emotions. Sometimes people just feel upset or angry, and no matter what you do, you can’t help then through it. but one things is for sure: to join in their madness is madness.

   we should never commiserate with others in their sinful emotions. Commiseration just makes for two miserable people, and it only fuels the fire of sin. it might feel like empathy, but empathy is only intended for godly feelings like sorrow,repentance and long suffering. the path of least is to allow them their negative emotions, listen to how they’re feeling, and then let it go, rather than to vicariously take it on as your own emotion. HOLDING ON THEIR ANGER AND MAKING IT YOUR OWN ONLY MAKES MATTERS WORSE. When you choose joy and love and refuse to join in their emotions you pour water on half of the fuel tension . and that helps thing move toward roconciliation a lot more quickly. the world is angry enough as it is;  more anger is not going to make things better. that’s just “counterintuitive” (OW yes yan na ang pangatlo sa pinaka malalim kong english HAHA).

    Their anger is their anger, and while you must confess your part in it if you did something to lead them to anger, you don’t have to defend urself because your job is understanding, not-self protection. it goes back to that classic image to light and darkness. “if someone is in the dark they dont want to be told it’s not dark or its not a dark as they think it is. (Hindi muna kailangang pagdudukan sa kanya a nag kamali siya sapat na ang isa o dlwang beses na ipakita  sa kanya na nag kamali siya)..

LETTING THE OTHER PERSON’S EMOTION CONTROL YOU

~OK wala nako maisip T_T PARA YAN SA MGA TAONG MAHIRAP TANXAHIN ^_^.